Why Do I Have to Go to Church? By Cindy

by admin on September 21, 2010

My first thought was, I know exactly what I would say to that child….”This is my home and you will go to church whether you like it or not, as long as you are living under my roof, and that’s that!!!”  There’s truth to this bold statement, but I don’t know what exactly what I would say or do.  Here are some of my thoughts of how I think I might handle this kind of situation, if this is something that our family comes to experience.
 
I joked with my mother-in-law that this would be something that I would pass off onto my husband to deal with.  But this situation would definitely take both of us being prayerful and mindful of that child to be able to help that child.  So there would be a lot of prayers.  Prayers on behalf of that child, but also prayers that I would know how to help, to guide and to ultimately to strengthen that child.
 
There would be discussions between us (me and my husband) and that child.  Those discussions might be about what the most important things are in life, what does it mean to be truly happy, what brings us happiness and joy, what are the most important relationships that we have and who are they with.  Talking about these things and helping that child to understand why church and why the gospel of Jesus Christ is so important would be a fundamental first step to answering their question “Why do I have to go to church?”
 
I believe very strongly in the importance of families.  Families are ordained of God.  In “The Family, A proclamation to the World” we read about our sacred duty, as parents, to raise our children in love and righteousness, to provide for them their spiritual and physical needs and to teach them to obey God’s commandments and to love and serve one another.  So we would help them understand why there are parents in families, how important parents are and what would happen if there weren’t any parents.
 
Should we let our children make their own choices?  The answer is both yes and no.  Yes, for many things such as things that help them to express themselves and things that help them to be a little more independent as they grown, etc., etc.  But for the things that are important to their happiness and health, (emotional,physical and spiritual) we, as their parents, have the responsibility and great privilege to teach, guide, ecourage and to often decide for them what is ultimately going to be best for them.
 
 
 

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Why Do I Have to Go to Church? by Sharon

by admin on September 21, 2010

Why do I have to go to Church? 

Well I’m not sure how to give advice to this question.  Attending church was just expected in our home and part of our lives.  And I think our children didn’t dare try not going.  But I sometimes wondered when they were over eighteen and driving if they ditched sometimes. 

When our children were young we just went to church.  Even on vacation.  We made it a top priority.  We didn’t give them a choice.  After they turned eighteen church attendance was up to them.  And they attended a young adult ward.  Our daughter was nervous to attend by herself and usually went with friends.  When our son graduated from high school he attended the young adult ward with his sister.  Over time he became more involved but didn’t attend all the extra activities. 

This time after high school graduation is scary for a parent.  You need to let go and let your children make their choices and live with the consequences.  We are grateful our children have continued to choose to attend church and make it priority in their lives.

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Friday Journal- Cindy’s Quest for Balance

September 17, 2010

So the quest is ongoing!!!  But there are a few things that I have been trying to do really hard in the past little while that make a big difference…… “IF” I actually do them.
 
The first one is to have a plan.  Have a plan for the day, for the week and for the month.  Most [...]

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Family Time vs. Scheduled Activities, by Cindy

September 7, 2010

I love dinner time!  Aside from the fact that I love food, I just love being with my family and getting caught up on what went on with them on that particular day.  I love when we have evenings with just not a whole lot going on.  And I especially love when my kids are [...]

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Friday Journal: Cindy’s Quest for Balance

September 3, 2010

Lately I have had more and more days where I feel like there is not enough time for me to get done all that needs to be done.  Not only is there not enough time, but sometimes I don’t have the energy.  I have great energy for most of my day, then I feel myself [...]

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Family Time vs. The World of Technology, by Vanessa

September 1, 2010

Hi, my name is Vanessa and if I don’t watch myself I become addicted to technology very easily and my family suffers.
It is like this CONSTANT battle with me.  Often, it ends up in unplugging for a week at a time and once a month.
When I am online too much…that means with work or blogging [...]

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Family Time vs. The World of Technology, by Cindy

August 31, 2010

I just recently started texting.  I always thought it was just another distraction and a bother and wasn’t for me.  But I have to admit that it is so convenient and I thoroughly enjoy it.  When I just want to share a short little something or maybe just ask a quick question to my sister or friend I [...]

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Family Time vs. The World of Technology

August 30, 2010

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If these were Scrabble tiles, what could you spell?
The other night my son, his friend and myself had a nice game of Scrabble going.  Or at least they thought we did.  I felt like a petulant child as they set there at the table with me and texted to some friends and family members while [...]

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Grandparents, by Guest Blogger Kathryn

August 25, 2010

  Revealing 5 Secrets To Successful Grand Parenting 
Grandparents can be a vital part of a grandchild’s support system in teaching moral, social and spiritual values…working side by side with parents.   
Sometimes, grandparents are the only stable element in a child’s life, as evidenced by the increasing number of grandparents who are actually raising their grandchildren for [...]

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Grandparenting by Vanessa

August 24, 2010

Every adult has a different personality and shows their love, affection and interest in a different way. With that said I do think that every Grandparent should abide by these super important rules. Feel free to take notes! Look at me Miss Know it All

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