So…I…I feel like laughing out loud and screaming in frustration at how I really did not want to write about this subject! I actually asked Rebecca to take my place as soon as I saw the schedule for this week. Then I thought, ‘Oh fine, I can be a big girl and write it.’
I have a husband who works from the time he wakes up at 5:30am till the time he goes to bed at 10:30pm. Really. The man doesn’t help with chores because he is working like crazy providing for us and building a hugely successful business.
Some days I remember this and am very proud and thankful. Other days I am worn out and wanting a husband that comes home at 5pm and who doesn’t work weekends so he can help me.
Running a household is a lot of work! Having a very busy husband is hard and leaves me doing 95% of the work in running that household. When he is home I want him playing with the girls or hanging out with me. I don’t want to be nitpicky and scream, “Now it’s YOUR turn so its FAIR. Go do the dinner dishes!” If I can just hurry and do them with my kids, then when we do get to see him, we can just relax and play.
Our main goal with our businesses is to provide us with financial freedom and a very flexible schedule. So we can be together a lot and have fun as a family. We are in the “early years” of our business so the hours have to be put in! Sometimes I am understanding about this and sometimes I want to scream.
SO in answer to your question I am the one that 95% of the time takes the trash out at my house…and fixes the disposal…and hooks up the dishwasher…and deals with floods in the middle of the night…and fixes the breakers when the lights go out…and everything else.
Although, the other day he heard the trash man coming and he ran outside in the snow with no shoes on to throw the cans on the street. And I honestly stood at the front window and had the hugest grin on my face.
Some day this will happen more often! But for now, my guy needs to just hang out with us when he has free time, instead of completing my list of “to-dos” for running the household. For now I can get these things done on my own.
And also shhh...I hired myself a house cleaner over a year ago I pay the boy across the street to take care of the lawn... JUST to make up for the off percentages... so I don't have it too bad.
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Lol!
You just described how it is at our house.
Sometimes I imagine what it would be like for Phil to be working a nine to five job, then I snap out of it and take my unbelievably heavy trash out to the garbage can. Although one thing Phil does do is take the garbage cans out to the street, its good enough for me for now
Every household is different. At different times in our marriages there are different circumstances. Sounds like you two are doing the best you can to make it work. At other times things will be different but I feel you hit it on the head when you mentioned gratitude. Gratitude for our spouse helps us over many, many trials.
Oh, Jolena I read your comments from yesterday. Join millions of women who feel the same. Why can’t our husbands read our minds and “see” the needs? Well, they don’t so you are right we just need to get use to it or find a way to communicate. Once I quit expecting and started asking, I liked him better. (Liked me better too.)
Oh Vanessa, you always make me laugh! And I couldn’t agree with you more!!! Sometimes it’s okay to be tired, worn out and want someone else to do the jobs we’re tired of doing. Then there are those days that I am perfectly happy. It’s called “LIFE”. Don’t beat yourself up Vanessa, your doing an awesome job with that beautiful family of yours!
I like that Tyler ran out in the snow to take the trash cans out. It shows that even though he is insanely busy, his mind is still on his family and home.
You do way too much, and I’m still mad about the flood incident you had to take care of. You are a very good woman to step up and do so much. I hope you don’t have to play that role for much longer!
Wow, Vanessa, thanks for humbling me! You are so wise! I think I’m gonna start paying the kid next door to do our yard!